Do you remember, how many times you regretted not being able to stop in time, to pay off the malice. It's like a machine that has failed the control system: at any moment there can be an accident. Excessive emotion prevents you from building a successful career, personal relationships, and relationships with yourself: emotional people direct aggression not only to others, but to themselves. And there is no inner harmony - there is no peace, no confidence and strength that help us cope with everything, whatever happens in our lives, there are no people we would like to see next to us. But there are a lot of mistakes, committed "in a fit of feelings." In addition, emotional people are easy victims for manipulators: they are easier to control, play on their feelings, impose their will.
Ability to control your emotions will make you independent - both from your own inner worries and from surrounding people, will provide self-confidence, help to achieve your goals. Emotions will not control your mind and determine behavior. In addition, nervousness and irritability destroys health: it depletes the nervous system, leads to neuroses, depression and a lot of other diseases.
For many years, it was believed that negative emotions needed to exit. Now world psychoanalysts are convinced that this is not so: unrestrained, spiteful people constantly shout and break, but they do not become calmer. Moreover, over time the situation is aggravated. No, emotions can not be pushed inside: we just need to work on them. When you work on emotions, your energy is aimed at solving the problem. You analyze your feelings, look for their real source, and when you find, try to either eliminate it, or change the attitude to the situation. If you suppress emotions, then ignore the problem (distracted to work, seize stress, etc.), and it arises again, provoking more and more negative feelings each time.
Take the tests
First you need to understand the reason for your increased "emotionality". In many cases, mood swings, persistent irritability can be connected with purely physiological factors. Most diseases are accompanied by increased irritability. But especially this symptom is manifested in disorders of the thyroid gland, age hormonal changes in the body of a woman, neurological problems, metabolic disorders, infections, parasites. Therefore it is worthwhile to go to the laboratory and make a general and biochemical blood test, then make an appointment with a doctor who will "decipher" these analyzes. To begin with, go to the therapist, he will already send you, depending on the test results, to a certain specialist.
Also revise your menu. Mood swings can provoke a "jump" in blood glucose: if your food is dominated by products with a high glycemic index, as well as fast food, convenience foods, sweet soda, etc. It is proved that all industrial food containing taste enhancers, such as sodium glutamate, have a destructive effect on the nervous system. A similar effect for caffeine (which is not only in coffee, but also in many sweet drinks) and alcohol. I write a lot about how food is related to health, inner harmony and a sense of happiness, read about this article on my website.
Be kind to yourself
If your "emotionality" is not associated with any pathologies or neurosis, then it's worth working on yourself. And, as I mentioned, not for someone else's, but for your own good and comfort. People who tend to regularly show irritability and aggression towards others, also very cruel to themselves. This greatly complicates life, because you have to constantly communicate with an emotionally unstable, literally psychologically upset person. From others you can escape, but run away from yourself - it's problematic.
Therefore, try to find compromise with yourself, be kind and sympathetic towards yourself.
How to do it? Try to becpme your best friend. Imagine that you are the closest person for yourself (which it is), to whom you completely trust, and talk to yourself, talk, talk - until you feel that communication is established. You will not offend the closest person and pour negative on him! There will be inner harmony - nervousness will go away, you will become a happy person who calmly reacts to everything that would happen to him.
There are also many simple techniques, which will help to curb the surge of aggression and irritability. Classics of the genre: before you answer a provocation or resentment, learn to stop and count to ten or do three deep slow breathes. This will gain time to respond by "turning your head on".
If you are deliberately hurt, do not be angry with this person, just feel sorry for him. Aggressive, tactless people are very unhappy, they have serious internal conflicts, phobias, complexes, the need to assert themselves in any way, to prove their worth. They are in constant struggle with themselves, and this is very difficult. Of course, you always need to defend your interests and your rights, but you will achieve much greater results if you do it calmly and consciously. And if you respond calmly and with dignity, it immediately extinguishes the aggression of the "attacker". Only you decide to take inside the negative of the other, to spread it further, or refuse to serve as an emotional wastebasket.
Breathing practices and meditation are very helpful. Learn pranayama and other types of yoga breathing, this is a great way to learn how to manage emotions and stay calm in any situation. Meditation will help not only to achieve inner harmony, but also quickly disconnect from negative situations, see the real cause of your anger, and also simulate your best reaction in a particular situation. Repeat this until you start using the correct reaction automatically.
With the right approach, the so-called cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) provides excellent results, one of the most effective areas of modern psychotherapy. It forms positive habits, includes techniques for working with negative thoughts, as well as relaxation exercises.
Do not "wind" yourself: a sense of sadness or anger as a reaction to a problem - this is normal, but not rational. Instead of chewing your emotions, spending energy on them, focus on possible ways of solving the problem. Sit down and make a step-by-step plan of action, it helps a lot! You shift attention from emotion to mental work.
One more advice. Try to communicate less with nervous aggressive people: you can easily pick up the negative, like a cold, even without noticing it.
Have a good rest
Nice night rest and "emotionality" are directly related and interdependent. Little sleep - irritability, increased nervousness - a bad dream. Sleep is not only a physical rest: during the night we develop everything that we need for the normal functioning of all organs and systems, including the nervous system, hormones. Teach yourself to go to bed at the same time and it will be easier to fall asleep. A night bath with aromatic oils helps a good night's rest.
A good mood is also largely due to the level of biologically active substances in our body: endorphins, serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, which are called hormones of happiness. In particular, it is proved that endorphins are produced in the process of training and when engaged in sex. Any physical load helps to release into the blood of endorphins. So more love and sport!:))
Emotions are wonderful: when you enjoy life, love, inspired with your work. They are only good for you and for others. Another thing is negative emotions. Of course, we are alive, and in some cases, it is difficult to restrain feelings, just a measure is needed in everything. Do not let the emotions have a negative impact on your life, poison you and the world around you with aggression and negativity. To be calm and joyful, to respect yourself and others is much more good for beauty and health, happy joyful life!